also i think it’s really important to talk about the different experiences of queer sexualities. like what about the people who don’t have sex until they’re much older than the social norm! or the people who’ve only had sexual experiences under the influence! or the people who’ve never kissed anyone but know they’re into the kinkiest shit ever! or asexuals who have a shit ton of sex! or the people who’ve never seen another person’s genitals but have made out with every single person they’ve wanted to! or the people who are completely satisfied with their only sexual experiences being masturbation! ETC ETC ETC!
these people are definitely out there and i want to hear more about them because i’m so tired of the typical heteronormative timelines and experiences
p.s. if u regularly feel shitty about yourself after interacting with someone you call a friend, or if you find yourself frequently doubting things you believe to be true about yourself because someone you call a friend makes you doubt them, or even if u just feel really exhausted and full of negative vibes after hanging out with a pal, then maybe u should reconsider how much of a pal that person is
friends are friends because they affirm you when you need it and help you out of tough spots and try hard to be sensitive to your unique combination of insecurities instead of drawing them out just so they can stomp on them to make them sting more and listen to you when you try to talk about the hurtful things they might unconsciously do and then try to change them and tell you when you unknowingly hurt them because friendship means making change in your life so that you can grow into beautiful blossoms together, friendship is a garden of wildflowers and not one giant rose growing stronger and bigger than everyone else and pricking its thorns into everything around it